This article really deeply spoke to a personal point of conflict that necessitated cutting people out of my life, not to protect my peace, but to protect my body. I am going to be stepping back into spaces which my aggressors frequent, and will have to confront the internal conflict of maintaining my boundary without punishing them, and the external conflict that may arise from being face to face with my aggressors. This is a community space that holds a lot of value for me, and which I had abandoned for fear of the conflict that would arise. I am re-entering the space softly, chosing a day where I can be there and reconnect without this conflict so that when the conflict happens it doesn't define my re-entry into the community. I hope I have the grace necessary to navigate it compassionately and firmly.
I keep coming back to this post as I am about to make a big decision. Keeping the peace keeps us in lock step with injustice. Not here for that at all. Thank you for this.
ive reread this at least half a dozen times already. sent it to multiple ppl im in conflict with currently and ppl i regularly move through conflict with. gonna print a copy it so i can keep it forever and make new notes in the margins for every "new" conflict I experince. its sacred scripture.
yeah making me reflect on what i felt at the time already but couldnt place. that it wasnt’ right to ostracize my ex even though she seemed to relish in hurting me.
This article really deeply spoke to a personal point of conflict that necessitated cutting people out of my life, not to protect my peace, but to protect my body. I am going to be stepping back into spaces which my aggressors frequent, and will have to confront the internal conflict of maintaining my boundary without punishing them, and the external conflict that may arise from being face to face with my aggressors. This is a community space that holds a lot of value for me, and which I had abandoned for fear of the conflict that would arise. I am re-entering the space softly, chosing a day where I can be there and reconnect without this conflict so that when the conflict happens it doesn't define my re-entry into the community. I hope I have the grace necessary to navigate it compassionately and firmly.
strong impulse to print this out and shove it at people on corners like a bible thumper
I keep coming back to this post as I am about to make a big decision. Keeping the peace keeps us in lock step with injustice. Not here for that at all. Thank you for this.
ive reread this at least half a dozen times already. sent it to multiple ppl im in conflict with currently and ppl i regularly move through conflict with. gonna print a copy it so i can keep it forever and make new notes in the margins for every "new" conflict I experince. its sacred scripture.
yeah making me reflect on what i felt at the time already but couldnt place. that it wasnt’ right to ostracize my ex even though she seemed to relish in hurting me.